This is the time of year when so many of us make resolutions or define goals that we want to achieve during the coming year. So often we create lofty goals such as losing 40 pounds and then by January 2 we are finishing off the last of the Christmas baking and feel as if we have already broken that resolution or destroyed our goal. Life goes on and our positive intentions with which we started the year evaporate right before us.
This year we would like to take a different approach. We believe life is about continual learning, exploring and discovering more. This year we invite you to start to explore and discover more about yourself, what is important to you, what you value.
We all have a set of 3-5 values that need to be respected if we are to live a life aligned with our real self. When this occurs, we feel connected to our self, congruent, experiencing less resistance and conflict in life. When we are not aligned with our values, we may feel disconnected and life seems like a struggle. We tend to move to conflict more quickly as we are unaware when our values are disrespected.
Our invitation to you is to begin to get to know yourself better by identifying and becoming familiar with your personal values. Once familiar with them, they can become a compass for you, a way of navigating your life that helps you stay focused and connected to your self.
Below is a list of values we have created. Several other lists are available (Google values) so you can choose the words that best connect with you. As you read through the list, check off the words that resonate with you. You may end up with more than 3, even more than 5.
Now prioritize your selected words. What is the value that is most important to you, the one that really resonates for you? Go through your list, numbering each word you have chosen. Every 2-3 days, revisit your list changing the words or the order until you have 3-5 values identified that really resonate for you. These are most likely your personal values, those traits that are most important to you.
List of possible values:
Inner peace, calm
Living my passion
Respect for self and others
Service of others
TAKE ACTION: Take the time to identify and discover what your 3-5 personal values are. They are going to help support you live the life you want.
Next week we will explore how you can begin to focus on living in a way that aligns with your values, allowing you to feel connected to your true self at all times.